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I’ve moved

Filed under: Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 6:50 pm March 22, 2012
Dear Readers,

Life Probabilities now has its own home and from now on I will be posting here. I am sure, if you check it out, you’ll find something new.

For those who had subscribed by e mail or to the feed I will be happy if you subscribe once more at the new site. Sorry for the hassle, but you understand.

See you all at the new venue – just a click away!

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Elly

I’ve moved

Filed under: Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 6:50 pm
Dear Readers,

Life Probabilities now has its own home and from now on I will be posting here. I am sure, if you check it out, you’ll find something new.

For those who had subscribed by e mail or to the feed I will be happy if you subscribe once more at the new site. Sorry for the hassle, but you understand.

See you all at the new venue – just a click away!

Click!

Elly

Crash that ”writer’s block”

Filed under: blogging,creativity,Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 6:04 pm March 17, 2012
How many times have you opened your computer and stared at the monitor with absolutely no idea in your mind? How many times have you stared and hoped that from somewhere an idea will hit you and you will come up with a post to revive your blog, which needs to stay active? The answer for me is – many.

Recently I realized that more you concentrate on the ”writer’s block” worse it gets. Maybe it is because there is no such thing like ”writer’s block” and it’s only in our minds? Maybe by paying attention we only make it stronger? Maybe there are other ways to get rid of it, easy and fast?

Internet is flooded by different tips to boost creativity and I personally have tried many of them. Some did not work, some others did.  Below are the ones, which have been most effective for me so far.

Free your mind – stay empty

It’s ok not to think about anything for a while. It’s ok to free from those twisted thoughts and make some free space in your crowded mind. Think of it this way, when the idea comes, it needs a place to stay and maybe it does not come because your mind is too crowded. So free your mind and enjoy a short-term empliness.

Forget about the deadlines

By thinking about the pressure you make it heavier on you. It’s true the deadline is close that is why you need the idea to come fast, but the ideas don’t come because they are obliged to. Don’t push creativity by your deadlines and pretend that they are no deadlines. It sounds mad, but that’s when most of my ideas come, when they don’t feel squeezed and pressed.

Unglue from that monitor

Just because you are affront of the computer does not mean that you have something to write. If you stay there it won’t mean that the ideas will come either. So grant your laptop a short vacation.


Since you have already forgotten about that damn deadline and are away from your monitor, you can afford watching a movie. Choose a thought provoking, emotion evoking and good quality movie and enjoy.

Take your empty, deadline-free mind out

Simply go outside. Change your environment and take a fresh look at usual things. Pay attention to details, see things from different angle and new ideas may come up.

Watch people (don’t stare though)

I had communications professor, whose favorite activity was watching people. It was his career, his money-making tool and his hobby. Watching people without interacting with them boosts your imagination. You come up with different theories of who that is, why is he where he is, why he does what he does, etc. Only by watching someone you can get a ready story in your pocket.  

Lyric based songs

Some people listen to the song and concentrate on the melody, beats and rhythm. I am a word person, so I concentrate on lyrics. Very often a whole poem or concept surprisingly comes up when I hear an expression in a song. So get fresh lyric based music, relax and listen to the words.


Your writings may help you get into the mood. They may also help you find a topic, since there are always some ideas in your writings, which you can elaborate. And last but not least, if you are a good writer, your writings may inspire even yourself.

      Of course, there is no universal remedy for curing ”uncreative” state and there is no one unique way of bringing back your muse, inspiration and ideas. Just try some, experiment with others, come up with your own methods and sooner or later you will find what works for you.

Crash that ”writer’s block”

Filed under: blogging,creativity,Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 6:04 pm
How many times have you opened your computer and stared at the monitor with absolutely no idea in your mind? How many times have you stared and hoped that from somewhere an idea will hit you and you will come up with a post to revive your blog, which needs to stay active? The answer for me is – many.

Recently I realized that more you concentrate on the ”writer’s block” worse it gets. Maybe it is because there is no such thing like ”writer’s block” and it’s only in our minds? Maybe by paying attention we only make it stronger? Maybe there are other ways to get rid of it, easy and fast?

Internet is flooded by different tips to boost creativity and I personally have tried many of them. Some did not work, some others did.  Below are the ones, which have been most effective for me so far.

Free your mind – stay empty

It’s ok not to think about anything for a while. It’s ok to free from those twisted thoughts and make some free space in your crowded mind. Think of it this way, when the idea comes, it needs a place to stay and maybe it does not come because your mind is too crowded. So free your mind and enjoy a short-term empliness.

Forget about the deadlines

By thinking about the pressure you make it heavier on you. It’s true the deadline is close that is why you need the idea to come fast, but the ideas don’t come because they are obliged to. Don’t push creativity by your deadlines and pretend that they are no deadlines. It sounds mad, but that’s when most of my ideas come, when they don’t feel squeezed and pressed.

Unglue from that monitor

Just because you are affront of the computer does not mean that you have something to write. If you stay there it won’t mean that the ideas will come either. So grant your laptop a short vacation.


Since you have already forgotten about that damn deadline and are away from your monitor, you can afford watching a movie. Choose a thought provoking, emotion evoking and good quality movie and enjoy.

Take your empty, deadline-free mind out

Simply go outside. Change your environment and take a fresh look at usual things. Pay attention to details, see things from different angle and new ideas may come up.

Watch people (don’t stare though)

I had communications professor, whose favorite activity was watching people. It was his career, his money-making tool and his hobby. Watching people without interacting with them boosts your imagination. You come up with different theories of who that is, why is he where he is, why he does what he does, etc. Only by watching someone you can get a ready story in your pocket.  

Lyric based songs

Some people listen to the song and concentrate on the melody, beats and rhythm. I am a word person, so I concentrate on lyrics. Very often a whole poem or concept surprisingly comes up when I hear an expression in a song. So get fresh lyric based music, relax and listen to the words.


Your writings may help you get into the mood. They may also help you find a topic, since there are always some ideas in your writings, which you can elaborate. And last but not least, if you are a good writer, your writings may inspire even yourself.

      Of course, there is no universal remedy for curing ”uncreative” state and there is no one unique way of bringing back your muse, inspiration and ideas. Just try some, experiment with others, come up with your own methods and sooner or later you will find what works for you.

Chasing dreams

Filed under: Life probabilities,thoughts — Tags: — Ely @ 4:24 pm March 16, 2012

I was watching the concert dedicated to the Princess Diana, which made me think of people who are special enough to attract tones of people they don’t know. There is something about them but it is difficult to identify what exactly, that differentiates and makes them stand out.

The vast majority of them is brave enough to stand out and oppose to the norms, rules and stereotyped standards and most of them pay high price for that. In most cases it is worth but in some not really. At least those people are brave enough to choose the road less traveled and walk the alley they believe in.

Those are the people who make me feel ordinary sometimes… But on the other hand I am not attacked, envied and criticized. Although if I was, I wouldn’t really care, because there aren’t that many people I really care about.

On the other hand people just need to be themselves, without pretending they are someone else, without hiding their real thoughts so deep that they become unreachable even to themselves.

We all should learn to laugh when we feel happy, cry when we feel like that and shout when the circumstances require. We should breath with full lungs, love with full heart and live by chasing our dreams.
And if we chase them fast and strong enough, we may reach them sooner or later…

Chasing dreams

Filed under: Life probabilities,thoughts — Tags: — Ely @ 4:24 pm

I was watching the concert dedicated to the Princess Diana, which made me think of people who are special enough to attract tones of people they don’t know. There is something about them but it is difficult to identify what exactly, that differentiates and makes them stand out.

The vast majority of them is brave enough to stand out and oppose to the norms, rules and stereotyped standards and most of them pay high price for that. In most cases it is worth but in some not really. At least those people are brave enough to choose the road less traveled and walk the alley they believe in.

Those are the people who make me feel ordinary sometimes… But on the other hand I am not attacked, envied and criticized. Although if I was, I wouldn’t really care, because there aren’t that many people I really care about.

On the other hand people just need to be themselves, without pretending they are someone else, without hiding their real thoughts so deep that they become unreachable even to themselves.

We all should learn to laugh when we feel happy, cry when we feel like that and shout when the circumstances require. We should breath with full lungs, love with full heart and live by chasing our dreams.
And if we chase them fast and strong enough, we may reach them sooner or later…

Beer memories

Filed under: Life probabilities,thoughts — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm
With each sip of beer a memory enters my mind … Memories,which have nothing in common,which are from different periods of mylife and which are nothing more than just memories. Most of them don’t come back to me while I am sober J
Sip 1
Tbilisi… Nice city… City where part of my blood was made. I can feel and breathe it. I can identify myself to it, although last time I was here when I wa
s about 5. Back then I was here with my parents and no matter how strange it might sound I felt that I would not come back in a long while. I am back now – almost 30 years later…This time I am here with someone, who has become part of me. Someone with whom we walked through pain right into Tbilisi…


Sip 2

Brussels… it’s raining, as always. I am walking down our street and crying. The tears naturally partnered with the raindrops. Few minutes ago I had a long distance call from the phone booth. It sounded like any other phone call I had made before, but my soul heard much more. I intuitively felt the reality inside and knew that it was over…

Sip 3

Paris… It is late evening of Valentine’s Day. I am sitting on the window sill and looking at the Seine. Boats with bright lights are sailing up and down. Maybe that is the dumbest thing to do in Paris on Valentine’s day, but I am reading Shakespeare’s sonnets. Although I feel lonely, but still I feel certain that everything will be alright, because if what Shakespeare wrote still exists, then the world cannot be a bad place to live in.

Sip 4

Moscow... This is the only city I recall with disgust. I am 16 and very skinny. In the metro station a fat Russian woman pushes me aside and calls me a cow…Nothing extraordinary for Moscow, but enough for me to decide that no matter how long I will have to stay here, I will keep my interactions with this nation to minimum. As a result, the shop salespeople were the only ones I spoke to during my 10 month stay in Moscow… Never went back there since then by the way and hopefully never will! Although… I started writing there.
Sip 5

Plovdiv… One of my favorite towns. Somehow, after a certain period of time, this place had become home for me. It was the first place where I could imagine myself living for the rest of my life. It seemed that I fitted there, just like piece of a puzzle… perfectly. I recall the streets of the old town and how cozy they were. Have not been there since more than 10 years, but still recall the place with warmth. Hopefully I will go back there to my mixed teenage years someday…
Sip 6

Brno... I am going out in early morning winter cold and meeting my friend from school outside. We walk to school although it is still completely dark. Seems like late night. For the first time I am going to school somewhere where it starts at 7:30 am. For the first time I take off my shoes and put sleepers before I enter my class… Not the first time I am somewhere, where I don’t understand and speak the native language, but the first time a guy uses dictionary to let me know that I look pretty J I was 13 back then and not really pretty though…

Sip 7

Brugge… Maybe the most beautiful city I have ever seen. Belgian Venice… Have not been in Venice, but something tells me Brugge is better J There is something attractive and magical about it. It is winter, grey and chilly, but even the winter cannot hide the beauty and charisma of Brugge. I walk faster from my family so they get behind, because I want to feel and breathe the city alone, and share it with no one else.
Sip 8

Frankfurt… I am on very short business trip with my friend/college. We have full day trainings after which we have only 2 hours before the shops close. So we practice our walking speed, I wear out my high heels and we end up with overweight at the airport… Not very attractive city – just a business center and typical German thing, but we still recall it with a smile.
Sip 9

Varna… I am on vacation, visiting a friend. It is a tripto celebrate my break up and relax. With a small company we go to the best restaurant in Varna. It is an exceptional place, similar to which I have never seen before. The place is on a hill and the sea is below. There is nice illuminated pool. The castle is extremely rich, elegant and impressive, both from inside and outside. They serve with 18 century china and silver. There is helicopter parking outside. It is very quiet, nice and special.
Sip 10

Crete… island, which looks like heaven. The best family vacation ever. Sea, great hotel, wonderful food… It is a perfect escape from the reality. I adore Balkans!

Sip 11

Barcelona… It is our first honeymoon ever, 9 years after the wedding. And something tells me that if we had gone to honeymoon back then it would not have been as good. Perfect city, perfect man next to me, perfect hotel and perfect shopping… and a VERY special period in my life. A period of completely new beginning.
Last sip
Coming back to Yerevan… This is a place which I love leaving for another place, even if it is with the help of beer and memories.

Beer memories

Filed under: Life probabilities,thoughts — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm
With each sip of beer a memory enters my mind … Memories,which have nothing in common,which are from different periods of mylife and which are nothing more than just memories. Most of them don’t come back to me while I am sober J
Sip 1
Tbilisi… Nice city… City where part of my blood was made. I can feel and breathe it. I can identify myself to it, although last time I was here when I wa
s about 5. Back then I was here with my parents and no matter how strange it might sound I felt that I would not come back in a long while. I am back now – almost 30 years later…This time I am here with someone, who has become part of me. Someone with whom we walked through pain right into Tbilisi…


Sip 2

Brussels… it’s raining, as always. I am walking down our street and crying. The tears naturally partnered with the raindrops. Few minutes ago I had a long distance call from the phone booth. It sounded like any other phone call I had made before, but my soul heard much more. I intuitively felt the reality inside and knew that it was over…

Sip 3

Paris… It is late evening of Valentine’s Day. I am sitting on the window sill and looking at the Seine. Boats with bright lights are sailing up and down. Maybe that is the dumbest thing to do in Paris on Valentine’s day, but I am reading Shakespeare’s sonnets. Although I feel lonely, but still I feel certain that everything will be alright, because if what Shakespeare wrote still exists, then the world cannot be a bad place to live in.

Sip 4

Moscow... This is the only city I recall with disgust. I am 16 and very skinny. In the metro station a fat Russian woman pushes me aside and calls me a cow…Nothing extraordinary for Moscow, but enough for me to decide that no matter how long I will have to stay here, I will keep my interactions with this nation to minimum. As a result, the shop salespeople were the only ones I spoke to during my 10 month stay in Moscow… Never went back there since then by the way and hopefully never will! Although… I started writing there.
Sip 5

Plovdiv… One of my favorite towns. Somehow, after a certain period of time, this place had become home for me. It was the first place where I could imagine myself living for the rest of my life. It seemed that I fitted there, just like piece of a puzzle… perfectly. I recall the streets of the old town and how cozy they were. Have not been there since more than 10 years, but still recall the place with warmth. Hopefully I will go back there to my mixed teenage years someday…
Sip 6

Brno... I am going out in early morning winter cold and meeting my friend from school outside. We walk to school although it is still completely dark. Seems like late night. For the first time I am going to school somewhere where it starts at 7:30 am. For the first time I take off my shoes and put sleepers before I enter my class… Not the first time I am somewhere, where I don’t understand and speak the native language, but the first time a guy uses dictionary to let me know that I look pretty J I was 13 back then and not really pretty though…

Sip 7

Brugge… Maybe the most beautiful city I have ever seen. Belgian Venice… Have not been in Venice, but something tells me Brugge is better J There is something attractive and magical about it. It is winter, grey and chilly, but even the winter cannot hide the beauty and charisma of Brugge. I walk faster from my family so they get behind, because I want to feel and breathe the city alone, and share it with no one else.
Sip 8

Frankfurt… I am on very short business trip with my friend/college. We have full day trainings after which we have only 2 hours before the shops close. So we practice our walking speed, I wear out my high heels and we end up with overweight at the airport… Not very attractive city – just a business center and typical German thing, but we still recall it with a smile.
Sip 9

Varna… I am on vacation, visiting a friend. It is a tripto celebrate my break up and relax. With a small company we go to the best restaurant in Varna. It is an exceptional place, similar to which I have never seen before. The place is on a hill and the sea is below. There is nice illuminated pool. The castle is extremely rich, elegant and impressive, both from inside and outside. They serve with 18 century china and silver. There is helicopter parking outside. It is very quiet, nice and special.
Sip 10

Crete… island, which looks like heaven. The best family vacation ever. Sea, great hotel, wonderful food… It is a perfect escape from the reality. I adore Balkans!

Sip 11

Barcelona… It is our first honeymoon ever, 9 years after the wedding. And something tells me that if we had gone to honeymoon back then it would not have been as good. Perfect city, perfect man next to me, perfect hotel and perfect shopping… and a VERY special period in my life. A period of completely new beginning.
Last sip
Coming back to Yerevan… This is a place which I love leaving for another place, even if it is with the help of beer and memories.

Ode to Freelance Writing

Filed under: Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm

There are times in life, when the fog disappears and you can see things better. The reality becomes more ”real”, your wishes and dreams re-visit you from the past and from somewhere the courage enters your life. Since the fog may come back pretty soon, this is the short period you should definitely take advantage of, since you never know when similar chance will re-appear again.
So, together with the reality, my inner voice, wishes and dreams as well as the courage for the nth time I made a decision for a drastic change. I filled in the resignation template and gave up pretty interesting job, which as appeared later many applied for, since they thought it was one of the ”the dream jobs” of the company. Maybe it really was… but not for me anymore.
The day came, I handed over all the projects which I gave birth to and with a bitter sweet feeling left the office where I left hard work, impossible challenges, terrible speed, overtimes, tense atmosphere, annoying situations, always ringing cell phone, nice colleges and many unrecovered nerve cells. Many are sending their CVs to be able to do the same and to be in the shoes I have been for 2,5 years.
As to me, I am doing something totally different now. I follow my heart and do what I love – write. These days I am making my very first steps towards freelance writing and am going to tell you how it feels.
Here we go (I dedicate this to my x colleges, whom I wish patienceJ)


  1. The workload is under my total control
  2. I don’t see and hear my boss. Guess what? I DON’T have a boss!!!
  3. I can sleep in the mornings for as long as I want
  4. I can work from wherever and whenever I want
  5. My work depends on me only. The quality and the deadlines are under my personal control
  6. I learn a lot with each order I complete. I grow!
  7. I become much better writer with the time
  8. Guess what? I actually get paid for each word I write
  9. I do feel appreciated
  10. It doesn’t matter how I look and what I wear. I can work in my pajamas and sleepers, sipping coffee and listening to music
  11. There is no need to go out in winter cold, I can stay home cozy and warm
  12. Customer care is there 24/7 to provide with fast feedback and answer to your questions. Not something you will ever have in big offices with busy and nervous managers
  13. Finally you find out why you studied in the past. Before your academic knowledge did not seem to matter that much
  14. Nerve cells are safe and there is no stress
  15. Amazing, but I can plan things in advance and as a result I am not in a hurry, I do not run and my deadline is not yesterdayy
  16. I finally found time for myself (more time for the family, sport, reading, films, cooking, creative writing, etc J)
  17. Now I can meet people I want to see and avoid the ones I don’t
  18. I may switch off my cellphone whenever I want. Actually I may not switch it on at all if I choose to
  19. I can eat whenever I choose and don’t have to wait for the lunchtime
  20. It seems that my familty feels happier now
If I ever decide to work full time again I will make sure that what they offer is worth giving up all the above…
But, it may not be a stable income in the beginning, so if not my second half, maybe courage would not be enough to resign!

Paradigm Shift

Filed under: Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm

You live your stable life with already established values, believes and attitude towards different people and situations.

Your tastes, your views and opinions are sitting in their places popping up whenever needed. All seems clear, all seems normal, the life goes on…

Then Boom!!!

Unexpected, unplanned, unwanted… a thing happens. Something that turns everything upside down…

Those views, values and opinions, which were created for so long and with such effort start crushing down one by one. You realize they were all wrong, irrelevant and unnecessary.
They are immediately replaced by completely different ones, sometimes even with the opposite ones.

Boom!!! You realize that things are not that simple. In this life you can’t arrange everything in separate drawers and always know what is where like in your wardrobe.

It’s not a one-time set up, but a permanent process of re-arranging, re-evaluating and growing…

Growing, in order to have space for new things, bigger thoughts and larger plans!!!

Ode to Freelance Writing

Filed under: Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm

There are times in life, when the fog disappears and you can see things better. The reality becomes more ”real”, your wishes and dreams re-visit you from the past and from somewhere the courage enters your life. Since the fog may come back pretty soon, this is the short period you should definitely take advantage of, since you never know when similar chance will re-appear again.
So, together with the reality, my inner voice, wishes and dreams as well as the courage for the nth time I made a decision for a drastic change. I filled in the resignation template and gave up pretty interesting job, which as appeared later many applied for, since they thought it was one of the ”the dream jobs” of the company. Maybe it really was… but not for me anymore.
The day came, I handed over all the projects which I gave birth to and with a bitter sweet feeling left the office where I left hard work, impossible challenges, terrible speed, overtimes, tense atmosphere, annoying situations, always ringing cell phone, nice colleges and many unrecovered nerve cells. Many are sending their CVs to be able to do the same and to be in the shoes I have been for 2,5 years.
As to me, I am doing something totally different now. I follow my heart and do what I love – write. These days I am making my very first steps towards freelance writing and am going to tell you how it feels.
Here we go (I dedicate this to my x colleges, whom I wish patienceJ)


  1. The workload is under my total control
  2. I don’t see and hear my boss. Guess what? I DON’T have a boss!!!
  3. I can sleep in the mornings for as long as I want
  4. I can work from wherever and whenever I want
  5. My work depends on me only. The quality and the deadlines are under my personal control
  6. I learn a lot with each order I complete. I grow!
  7. I become much better writer with the time
  8. Guess what? I actually get paid for each word I write
  9. I do feel appreciated
  10. It doesn’t matter how I look and what I wear. I can work in my pajamas and sleepers, sipping coffee and listening to music
  11. There is no need to go out in winter cold, I can stay home cozy and warm
  12. Customer care is there 24/7 to provide with fast feedback and answer to your questions. Not something you will ever have in big offices with busy and nervous managers
  13. Finally you find out why you studied in the past. Before your academic knowledge did not seem to matter that much
  14. Nerve cells are safe and there is no stress
  15. Amazing, but I can plan things in advance and as a result I am not in a hurry, I do not run and my deadline is not yesterdayy
  16. I finally found time for myself (more time for the family, sport, reading, films, cooking, creative writing, etc J)
  17. Now I can meet people I want to see and avoid the ones I don’t
  18. I may switch off my cellphone whenever I want. Actually I may not switch it on at all if I choose to
  19. I can eat whenever I choose and don’t have to wait for the lunchtime
  20. It seems that my familty feels happier now
If I ever decide to work full time again I will make sure that what they offer is worth giving up all the above…
But, it may not be a stable income in the beginning, so if not my second half, maybe courage would not be enough to resign!

What I do when things go wrong?

Filed under: Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm

Yesterday, when the spring was almost there the winter took over again. It snowed heavily, ice covered the pavements, sun went away and we all appeared in mid-winter again. That caused plenty annoyed Facebook updates, photos and disappointed sighs. That was just a snow…

We all get bad days once in a while. Usually we can feel it from the morning. We feel it, convince yourself that it’s true and start concentrating on the problems. They on their turn feel happy from the attention and show up at their best. So we feed them up and make sure that they stay in and we feel miserable for the whole day accordingly. That’s what I did with many others… but not anymore.


I have several ”tricks” which make me forget about the snow and similar ”disasters” and keep my good mood. Today was a potential bad day. I saw really unpleasant dream, it was icy and cold when I went out and I received a rejection letter for my guest post… But instead of feeling sorry and sad, I pulled myself together and called back my good mood.

Below are the small tricks I usually use:

  • Smile – maybe it sounds crazy, but once you try you will see it works. Start your day with a smile. One smile in the bathroom mirror can make miracles!
  • Music – turn on those beats that make you happy, sing along or move. Simply give music a chance and it will give you a cure
  • Surrounding – make a place at home, where you feel most comfortable and relaxed. Have nice photos around, nice things that you like looking at, bright colors, candles, ect. This place will be your escape from the bad mood, where it will not be able to find you
  •  Memories – recall the happiest moments of your life. Re-live them once more. Concentrate on how you felt back then and bring back that feeling
  • Happy hour – plan something for the day that will make you feel better. Meet friends, go out for a walk, have that forbidden chocolate bar, read a book, watch a movie, sip your coffee/tea/cocktail with no hurry – whichever is for you. Just schedule a time slot, when it will be only about you
  • Workout – yes, I know that on those days you especially feel lazy to workout. But believe me this is the best way to charge your body energy. Maybe promising yourself the ”happy hour” mentioned above may contribute to the motivation. In any case, working out helps me release stress, boost energy and on long run look much better
  •   Daydream – there is something you want, long for, hope to happen, dream of. Think about that. Decide when it will happen and wait. Even if it doesn’t happen soon (it’s forbidden to think that it won’t happen at all!) it will bring positive emotions meanwhile
  • Thank you – maybe at this exact moment you feel unfortunate, but think once more. Go through all the things you are grateful for and you will realize that you have much more than you thought
  • Activity – things will not change if you stay passive. If there are things, which you do not like in your day, do something to change. Be active and move. People, who are on the top, did not fall there from the sky, right? They did not get there lying on the coach either
  • Attitude – things like the weather though, will not change, even if you are active. But for those things, just change your attitude towards them. Think if the things which annoy you today will matter in few years. Most probably they won’t. Why put such importance in that case?

So next time it snows in spring don’t rush to your Facebook account and update your status.
Have a nice day!

Paradigm Shift

Filed under: Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm

You live your stable life with already established values, believes and attitude towards different people and situations.

Your tastes, your views and opinions are sitting in their places popping up whenever needed. All seems clear, all seems normal, the life goes on…

Then Boom!!!

Unexpected, unplanned, unwanted… a thing happens. Something that turns everything upside down…

Those views, values and opinions, which were created for so long and with such effort start crushing down one by one. You realize they were all wrong, irrelevant and unnecessary.
They are immediately replaced by completely different ones, sometimes even with the opposite ones.

Boom!!! You realize that things are not that simple. In this life you can’t arrange everything in separate drawers and always know what is where like in your wardrobe.

It’s not a one-time set up, but a permanent process of re-arranging, re-evaluating and growing…

Growing, in order to have space for new things, bigger thoughts and larger plans!!!

What I do when things go wrong?

Filed under: Life,Life probabilities — Tags: — Ely @ 4:23 pm

Yesterday, when the spring was almost there the winter took over again. It snowed heavily, ice covered the pavements, sun went away and we all appeared in mid-winter again. That caused plenty annoyed Facebook updates, photos and disappointed sighs. That was just a snow…

We all get bad days once in a while. Usually we can feel it from the morning. We feel it, convince yourself that it’s true and start concentrating on the problems. They on their turn feel happy from the attention and show up at their best. So we feed them up and make sure that they stay in and we feel miserable for the whole day accordingly. That’s what I did with many others… but not anymore.


I have several ”tricks” which make me forget about the snow and similar ”disasters” and keep my good mood. Today was a potential bad day. I saw really unpleasant dream, it was icy and cold when I went out and I received a rejection letter for my guest post… But instead of feeling sorry and sad, I pulled myself together and called back my good mood.

Below are the small tricks I usually use:

  • Smile – maybe it sounds crazy, but once you try you will see it works. Start your day with a smile. One smile in the bathroom mirror can make miracles!
  • Music – turn on those beats that make you happy, sing along or move. Simply give music a chance and it will give you a cure
  • Surrounding – make a place at home, where you feel most comfortable and relaxed. Have nice photos around, nice things that you like looking at, bright colors, candles, ect. This place will be your escape from the bad mood, where it will not be able to find you
  •  Memories – recall the happiest moments of your life. Re-live them once more. Concentrate on how you felt back then and bring back that feeling
  • Happy hour – plan something for the day that will make you feel better. Meet friends, go out for a walk, have that forbidden chocolate bar, read a book, watch a movie, sip your coffee/tea/cocktail with no hurry – whichever is for you. Just schedule a time slot, when it will be only about you
  • Workout – yes, I know that on those days you especially feel lazy to workout. But believe me this is the best way to charge your body energy. Maybe promising yourself the ”happy hour” mentioned above may contribute to the motivation. In any case, working out helps me release stress, boost energy and on long run look much better
  •   Daydream – there is something you want, long for, hope to happen, dream of. Think about that. Decide when it will happen and wait. Even if it doesn’t happen soon (it’s forbidden to think that it won’t happen at all!) it will bring positive emotions meanwhile
  • Thank you – maybe at this exact moment you feel unfortunate, but think once more. Go through all the things you are grateful for and you will realize that you have much more than you thought
  • Activity – things will not change if you stay passive. If there are things, which you do not like in your day, do something to change. Be active and move. People, who are on the top, did not fall there from the sky, right? They did not get there lying on the coach either
  • Attitude – things like the weather though, will not change, even if you are active. But for those things, just change your attitude towards them. Think if the things which annoy you today will matter in few years. Most probably they won’t. Why put such importance in that case?

So next time it snows in spring don’t rush to your Facebook account and update your status.
Have a nice day!

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